I have had this post planned for a long time! We found very early in our marriage that Daniel and I express love drastically different. I was never, never, never a touchy person. I always gave hugs as a greeting instead of a handshake but I hate to be smothered and touched. From a young age my mom tells me I never like to be cuddled I was independent and preferred my own space. Somethings don’t change, however knowing that the person I love dearly NEEDS to be hugged and cuddled to feel love has made me a little more cuddly.
For this Valentines Day instead of focusing on the nice dinner and the flowers; and instead of showing you guys just what you could BUY I wanted to shed some light on how to love your spouse, your boyfriend or yourself all year without having to spend a fortune.
Love Languages was developed by a man named Gary Chaplan the Book, 5 Love Languages was publish in 2016 you can purchase it here. It’s focused on how we feel love and how we show love. By showing love the way your partner likes to receive love you are able to create a deeper more loving bond. To take the test of how you receive love click here. This quiz is fast and very enlightening.
Words of Affirmation
FOR YOUR SPOUSE:
Write them a sticky note of what you love about them on their mirror.
Write a letter or a card and send it through the mail so they have something fun to open
Write a note on their wall on Facebook or Share a cute photo of the two of you on instagram sharing how much you love and appreciate your person
Express Gratitude for work they’ve done
Share something you love about them with them in a quiet setting
Allow them to open up a card with something you love about them each hour of the day of your choosing (Probably Feb. 14th)
Create a memory book full of pictures and notes of you and your person to cherish
Think back to your first date and buy a gift in similitude of that date. Go back and revisit all the funny things that happened
Pay attention and make notes when your spouse expresses something they want or have wanted for a while…surprise them with it!
Put a small gift or token of love in their lunchbox or car for work to let them know you were thinking of them
Get them a gift on an obscure holiday! I’ve found a list here that you can do just about any day of the year! For example Feb 14th is also National Ferris Wheel day!
Buy their favorite, dessert, candy bar or flowers
Make a playlist on Spotify inspired by your significant other and share it with them
Make them breakfast in bed
Give them the day to do whatever they want while you do their chores
Fold and do the laundry
Clean up the dishes if they cook
See the need and take care of it before being asked to help
Hire someone to clean or grocery shop for a month
Try your hand at cooking AND clean up when you’re done
Buy them a Roomba to help with floors
Plan a day all around your spouses likes and make it possible to spend the whole day together. (That means you hire a babysitter)
Go to the Zoo, a sporting event (Hockey is big in Feb…just sayin’)
Take them dinner and give them your undivided attention no cell phones!
Surprise them with a weekend gateway all planned
After the kids are in bed put your phones away and just talk. (Not about bills, the todo’s or the kids) talk about your hopes, dreams and the future (or think back on the past)
Grab their hand in public
Hug and touch them without being asked
Cuddle them when you crawl into bed
Give them a massage
Sit next to each other when you go out to eat
Hold hands when you drive