I wanted to chat with you guys a little bit about New Years Resolutions. I know, I know but hear me out! I don’t want to tell you all about what I’m promising myself I’ll do this year. Instead I want to share with you guys HOW I’ve conquered my resolutions and how you can too!
This year is MY year I can feel it and it’s YOUR year too! Ready?
I set S.M.A.R.T. Goals for Myself
Here Is A Sample of What A Goal Might Look Like:
I want to lose 15 pounds.
This is great but I have literally NO support to get this goal done. You need to ask yourself these questions: By when? How will I know when I’ve lost it? What am I going to do to get there? Why do I even want to lose the weight anyway?
Let’s Start Again:
I want to lose 15 pounds by May. I will weigh myself once a week and exercise more. I want to lose the weight to look good in a swimsuit.
Okay, this is a GREAT start! But we need to dig deeper. I would venture to say a lot of start here and honestly just typing it I was losing my motivation to pretend to lose the weight.
Your Resolution needs to be Specific, Measurable, Attainable, Relevant, and Timely
Specific: I want to lose 15 Pounds by May by exercising 5x a week and cutting my calories to 1500 daily
Measurable: I will weigh and log my weight loss, fat loss and inches on Sunday Evenings
Attainable: If I start now I have 17 weeks that’s a little over 1 pound a week
Timely: I WILL be down 15 pounds by May
Now it’s your turn!
Create a list of What You Want to Accomplish this Year then Give Each Goal it’s Own Half Sheet of Paper
Mark on the Calendar by WHEN you’d like to accomplish each of your goals
For each Goal do just like I did above. I would suggest starting with the ones that will take the longest to complete. You don’t have to do them all at once.
I keep my goal sheets where I see them Everyday
I do this because here’s the thing. You do your goals then you put them in a drawer and forget about them. NO. If you are serious about making changes in your life you need to be able to see them every single day. Places I keep my goals are: At my Desk, On my computer, On the Fridge (FRONT), in my closet, and on my mirror. I would suggest putting your goal sheet up in at least three places. Put them in places you are a lot of the day. Even if it’s on the Garage door or on the cabinet in the laundry room!
I keep pictures of what Accomplishing my Goal Looks Like
When I was competing as a body builder and I was just starting I kept pictures of successful IFBB Bikini Pros all around me to keep my motivated when I didn’t want to go. Just to give you an idea it wasn’t just ‘working out’ it was 45 minutes of the stair master sweating so hard it would burn my eyes. So hard that I would wring my shirt out with sweat. I mean really working hard. And somedays I didn’t want to go. But I kept what I wanted in front of me and I was successful.
Remember that it take 21 days to build a habit
Remember what I said about not wanting to go workout? Well, the truth is, is that sometimes to be successful you need to build this goal into your everyday life so much so that it becomes a habit. You are no longer motivated but habituated. You can’t be balls to the wall motivated ALL THE TIME. It just doesn’t happen you need to make life choices a habit. I don’t allow myself to ‘cheat’ for at least 21 days.
Build a Delayed Mindset
I’d like to let you in on a secret. I haven’t had alcohol in over 6 years. I never got to see my 21st birthday before I lost a lot that was important to me; a full ride scholarship, housing, friendships etc. Severe alcoholism runs deep in my family. When I was starting fresh in my recovery it was January 5th, 2013. My mom told me after I dropped out of college that I could stay there with her but I wasn’t allowed to drink or she’d kick me out. I believed her. She told me that this mantra helped her get through the dark days of her recovery. Ready?
“I can’t drink today but I can have a drink tomorrow.”
I told that to myself everyday for nearly 6 months before I lost the urge to drink. I went through some of the darkest days in those 6 months. I nearly lost my brother to mental illness and my mom too because of my brother. Some nights I slept in my car because it wasn’t safe to come home with him there. I was pushed to my breaking point and still I would tell myself over and over again. I can’t drink today but I can have a drink tomorrow.
Believe in Your Cause
Take the time to find the why in what you’re doing. And never be shy about what sets your soul on fire!